Monday, December 29, 2008

The Physical Aspects of Grief

By Christian Goodman

I've been out of touch lately with friends I was once close too. It happens unfortunately as life just keeps everyone busy and on different schedules.

Not long ago though, I heard from a friend I was close to years ago. Sadly, I learned that her husband had passed away not too long ago.

I was broken hearted for her knowing how very difficult it must have been emotionally. She shared too though, that physically she had struggled during that sad time.

"My blood pressure had gone up even though I seemed to move in slow motion. I also experienced back problems and severe headaches. Plus, I couldn't get to sleep in spite of the absolute exhaustion."

Few emotions compare to the difficulty of grief. Many theories surrounding the stages of grief exist. Added to the complexity are other emotions that are tied in such as overwhelming saddness, guilt and shock.

It is little wonder that the body will react to such stress. Some symptoms include headaches, changes in sleeping and eating, poor physical strength and overall anxiety.

A person may appear to be barely moving, when internally they are extremely anxious. Shall breathing can occur which further contributes to anxiety and poor health.

Each person experiences loss very differently, so there are no special rules of exactly how to handle it. However, it is very important not to ignore physical health during this difficult time.

Overall, the same tips for physical health apply during this tough time as with any other.

Physical exercise is still a good idea. It may just mean walking at first. This can help keep weight gain minimized and assist with muscle tone.

Eat properly. The body needs good nutrition more than ever at this time. Try to avoid processed foods as much as possible and increase your fresh fruit and vegetable intake.

Take a break. Shallow breathing lessens the oxygen intake. Practice deep breathing to help with relaxation and counter additional anxiety.

Deal with the emotional aspects as well. Asking for help can make a big difference. Some people prefer the comfort of close friends or relatives. Some find one on one or group therapy extremely beneficial.

I do not recommend anyone try to rush through this process. It is universally agreed that no specific timetable exists for working through grief.

I was relieved to know that my friend is really thriving now. As hard as it was, she did focus on her physical as well as emotional needs.

"I had to learn to relax, really relax. When I felt like my heart was racing, I practiced inhaling deeply and exhaling slowly and completely. My sleeping and eating habits then improved significantly."

She started walking regularly which resulted in other health improvements. "My blood pressure came back down and I dropped a few pounds."

I also suggest my High Blood Pressure Program, Migraine/Headache Relief Program and Weight Loss Breeze Program. They are all natural and easy but have shown tremendous results.

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